Begin Healing from Emotional Abandonment- Online Therapy with Inese
If you have found your way here, you are likely carrying something that has been with you for a long time, a quiet sense of emptiness, a difficulty trusting yourself or others, or a persistent feeling that something is missing even when life looks fine from the outside. Perhaps you have spent years wondering what is wrong with you, or working hard to hold everything together while feeling hollow underneath.
This page is for adults healing from emotional abandonment, childhood emotional neglect, fear of rejection, co-dependency, or the lasting impact of emotionally unavailable parents. You are in the right place.
Free introductory call
You may have been considering therapy for some time and still exploring the idea, have some questions, or feel ready to begin, I offer a free, no-obligation 30-minute introductory call. It’s an opportunity for you to share what brings you to therapy, answer any questions you may have and get a sense of whether working together feels right.
If you are specifically looking for support with emotional abandonment, you can read more on my dedicated Emotional Abandonment Therapy page.
Regular therapy sessions
Support from someone who understands.
As we begin, we will agree on a day and time for weekly (or optional fortnightly) sessions. My practice is currently open on Tuesday and Thursday evenings and on Saturdays. Each session lasts 50 minutes, is held online only and costs £75.
You will need to ensure a strong enough internet connection for a video call and a quiet, private space to speak from.
I do not work with clients in Canada or the US due to licensing restrictions.
What We Will Work On Together
Emotional abandonment and the fear of being left.
Many of my clients grew up never quite feeling seen or emotionally held by the people who should have provided that security. In our work together we explore how that early experience has shaped your relationships, your sense of self, and the quiet fear that connection will always eventually be taken away.
The inner critic and perfectionism.
The harsh internal voice that tells you that you are not enough, that you must do more, be more, achieve more, is not your personality. It is a protective strategy that developed for good reasons. Therapy creates the space to understand where it came from and to begin relating to yourself with far greater compassion and ease.
Co-dependency and losing yourself in relationships.
If you consistently put others' needs before your own, struggle to maintain a sense of yourself within relationships, or find that your emotional state is dictated by how others are feeling, this is something we can work on together, gently and without judgement.
Fear of rejection and difficulty receiving love.
When rejection has been a defining early experience, your nervous system learns to anticipate it everywhere. We work to understand this pattern at its roots, so that you can begin to allow connection in rather than unconsciously keeping it at a distance.
Emptiness and not knowing who you are.
A persistent inner void, the sense of going through the motions, achieving things that should feel meaningful but don't, is one of the most common experiences my clients describe. Together we work towards a fuller, more grounded sense of self.
Difficulty trusting yourself and others.
When your emotions were not reliably met in childhood, trust — in yourself and in relationships — becomes complicated. Building that trust, carefully and at your own pace, is central to the work we do together.
Emotional Abandonment and Childhood Emotional Neglect
Emotional abandonment is not the same as physical neglect or abuse. It happens when a child's emotional world is consistently overlooked, when feelings are dismissed, needs go unacknowledged and the child is left to make sense of their inner life alone. A parent may have been physically present, even loving in practical ways, and yet emotionally unavailable in the ways that matter most.
In adult life, emotional abandonment tends to show up as a persistent sense of emptiness or unworthiness, difficulty trusting love even when it is offered, a fear of rejection that shapes decisions and relationships, and a deep uncertainty about who you really are. These experiences are real, they are significant and they are not your fault.
As a specialist in emotional abandonment and childhood emotional neglect, I offer therapy that goes to the root of these experiences, not just managing symptoms, but understanding their origins and creating genuine, lasting change.
Some aspects that attract individuals to my practice and ways our therapeutic work has enabled them.
Feelings of emptiness and disconnection grow into fulfilment and not “starving” or trying to fill an inner “hole” anymore.
Wondering what is wrong with you; instead, feel confident, good enough to be who you are and hold yourself in high regard.
Your feelings were ignored, minimised, or dismissed, leaving you to suppress them and feel invisible and unworthy. Instead, you feel comfortable in your own skin, able to feel and express your voice and feelings.
Left alone to face overwhelming situations, manage your own emotions, don’t burden others and deal with everything yourself. Instead, embrace reaching out, share your pain with a trusted person, realise you're less alone, and find comfort in connection.
Feeling not as important or equal to other people, as if you are of lesser value. Comparing yourself with others and putting yourself down. Instead, you value yourself and feel comfortable claiming your space and existence at life's table. You honour your wants, needs, and you have the right to ask and have what you want and need.
In your relationships, you struggle to accept loving, caring and kind acts of love. They make you feel uncomfortable, unsure of what to do with it, and often feel unworthy of them. Instead, you begin to believe and trust that you are lovable, and you feel more at ease receiving and letting in this nourishment.
Without enough emotional support, warmth and validation growing up, you developed a fear of being rejected; therefore, fear leads your behaviour and choices to protect yourself and avoid experiencing this pain again, even pushing away people who really like or want to be with you. Instead, you allow yourself to want, be worthy of and reach out for connection, to survive disapproval, and yet believe your worth, knowing that you are lovable and worthy of connection.
FAQs
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Emotional abandonment is not being noticed who you are and being left alone with your feelings, which are ignored or dismissed instead of being met with empathy. They may be denied, minimised or ridiculed, and conversations are avoided. As a result, you don't feel seen, understood or loved, facing distress and your emotions without support, coping on your own.
Affection, reassurance or care feels inconsistent or absent, often because the level of nurture and emotional support from a primary caregiver was insufficient.
Yes, therapy can support you in moving towards self-acceptance, greater confidence and self-worth, more joy, vitality and a sense of wholeness, love and care for yourself.
Therapy can also support you in creating healthier, more loving and more connected relationships with yourself and others, and in really living your own life without guilt.
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No, you do not need a difficult childhood to benefit from therapy.
You may be unaware of childhood trauma because your brain often represses painful memories or creates coping mechanisms to function. Symptoms like anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, toxic repeated relationship patterns or intense reactions can indicate hidden trauma. Therapy is a tool for personal growth, navigating current challenges and enhancing mental health and overall well-being, regardless of your past.
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Sessions take place on an online platform and last 50 minutes.
You need to ensure you have a strong enough internet connection and a quiet, private, and undisturbed space for the session.
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If you are drawn and interested in working with me, please fill out the contact form, and we will schedule a free 30-minute initial call.
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This call is not a therapy session; rather, a meeting to discuss informally, where you can share what brings you to therapy, ask any questions you may have, and explore whether we feel like a good fit to work together.
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If we agree to work together and both feel happy to do so, we will agree on a day and time for weekly or bi-weekly therapy sessions.
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My sessions are held on Tuesday and Thursday evenings at 7pm and 8pm, and on Saturdays, from the morning until 3pm (GMT).
The fee for the regular session is £75.
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The number of psychotherapy sessions depends on the challenges you face, the depth and complexity of the issues you are dealing with, your motivation for change, and the support you have available.
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To cancel an appointment, I need to be notified at least one week (seven days) in advance, which means that I will not charge any fee if you give notice of one week or more to cancel.
Otherwise, late cancellations (made with less than seven days’ notice) and missed appointments are all charged the full fee.
If you need to reschedule, I will always try to offer an alternative time before Friday of the same week, however this does not guarantee an alterntive slot for you.
This is because I am committing to holding these appointments open solely for your use.
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I exclusively accept private pay clients. This decision was intentional because insurance companies often require the disclosure of session content, provide a diagnosis and determine the number of sessions. My professional goal is to support you based on your preferences and needs, without the restrictions and requirements of insurance policies.
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Please fill out the contact form below or email me at inese.amanella@gmail.com.
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